117. Letting Go of the “Shoulds”
My Feel Better class is in session right now, and we’re talking about what it means to live from the inside out and to decide for yourself what you want to think instead of looking outside for the right answer. It’s not easy, because most of us were raised to follow an invisible rulebook of what we should and shouldn’t do, and who we’re supposed to be. In this episode, I talk about what happens when we stop living by invisible rulebooks and start living from the inside out. You’ll hear how “shoulds” are tied to old programming and people-pleasing habits, why approval once meant survival for women, and what it really means to make choices from self-trust instead of guilt. I’ll walk you through five simple steps to release those outdated rules so you can move through life with more freedom, confidence, and ease.
Show Highlights
Live from the inside out by thinking for yourself, not seeking outside approval.
Notice how the invisible rulebook of “shoulds” keeps you performing instead of creating.
See people-pleasing as old survival programming you can now outgrow.
Replace “I should” with “I choose” to align with your true values.
Pause when a “should” appears and ask who decided that rule.
Expect discomfort as you stop seeking approval and choose differently.
Say no to one “should” this week and practice living by your own rules.
Resources
Email me: sheila@sheilatully.com
Free Guide: Three Steps to Clarity: How to Know What You Really Want
