118. The Real Point of Self-Development
Lately, I’ve been thinking about what all this personal growth work is really for. Every book, class, retreat, or new habit we try seems to have one job to return us to who we really are. In this episode, I talk about why authenticity is the true point of self-development and how so many midlife women lose touch with their natural compass. I’ll share what blocks authenticity, from people-pleasing and perfectionism to the nervous system patterns that make truth feel unsafe. And I’ll walk you through five simple steps to peel back those layers so you can reconnect with your nature, speak smaller truths with confidence, and live with more integrity and ease.
Show Highlights
Follow the quiet pull of what you love and let it guide you back to your authentic self.
Recognize how conditioning and “shoulds” have pulled you away from your natural desires.
Notice where you edit or shrink yourself to feel safe, and name the fear underneath it.
Regulate before you relate so your body feels safe enough to tell the truth.
Start small by saying the smallest true thing to build trust with yourself.
Replace “shoulds” with principles that reflect your values and integrity.
Practice daily micro-bravery—cleaner no’s, truer yes’s, and gentle self-trust.
Resources
Email me: sheila@sheilatully.com
Free Guide: Three Steps to Clarity: How to Know What You Really Want
